On May 8, 1914, the U.S. Congress passed a law designating the second Sunday in May as Mother's Day. The history of the holiday goes back to 1868 when Ann Jarvis organized a committee to establish a "Mother's Friendship Day", with a purpose to reunite families separated due to the Civil War. After Ann Jarvis passed away, her daughter Anna Jarvis continued her efforts. Today, Mother's Day is one of the most popular holidays in the United States. Traditional celebrations include going out to dinner, buying flowers and candy, seeing a show, or just spending quality time with Mom. In the midst of the celebratory spirit of Mother's Day, some families experience feelings of loss and grief as they cope with the loss of their Mother. Let's discuss....
In my family, Mother's Day has always been a big celebration. My Mother was one who doted on her children and family. Mother's Day was our turn to dote on her and let her know how much her love and support meant to our family.
In May 2023, our family had a wonderful Mother's Day. It was my turn to host the celebration at my home. My gazebo was recently installed in my backyard with matching patio furniture. We had plenty of food and desserts. I bought my Mother some nice pajamas and flowers. As a family, we sat in the gazebo and said a prayer. At the time, I did not know it would be my last Mother's Day with my Mother at my home. She was quiet as if there was something on her mind.
With grace, on July 21, 2023, my Mother passed away after a long bout with cancer. It was a heartbreaking experience as our family watched the doctors remove her from life support and she took her last breath. She had recurrences of cancer for over twenty years, and we assumed that she would recover this time, as well. She lived a full seventy-one years, and wanted to live longer, but it was not meant to be. I think of her often and pray she is at peace.
Transitions
Death is a part of life, and the only aspect of life that we all have in common. The goal is to live a good life. Seeing a loved one die hurts, but it is a necessary part of life.
Death is a transition from one stage to another. If it is true that energy is neither created nor destroyed, it just changes forms, then death is an illusion.
On earth, we transitions in our roles as we mature and age. Each stage is an experience in the Circle of Life: Infant to child: Teenager to young adult; Student to Teacher; Child to Parent; Padawan to Jedi; Young to Old. Life to death.
Memories: Always and Forever; We Love you Mom!
This Mother's Day, and forever, I will remember the many good times with my Mother: Her smile, encouragement, lessons and wisdom. Her presence is always with me.
Happy Mother's Day to all Mothers, including those with biological children, adopted children or chosen children.
We send peace and love to all Mothers who have transitioned to the next reality. We love you! Appreciate you! And thank you!
Cherish the Memories with Mom: My Mother and I enjoyed watching Soul Food together. I will always cherish this film as a memory of our togetherness.
A Song for Mama - courtesy of YouTube, from the movie Soul Food. Sung by Boys II Men. Written and produced by Babyface.
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References:
https://www.wannapik.com/vectors/98129
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Soul_Food_(film)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vdTnuc3ktzo
Mother's Day, courtesy of Wikipedia
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother%27s_Day_(United_States)